Why have Tantra Massage when you can have coaching or therapy?

Therapy and coaching are great and effective methods as they can lead to an understanding of one's patterns and behaviour. Furthermore, talking therapies can bring a sense of peace and closure on certain issues.

Having access to people who have specialised skill in counselling and therapy can lead to an unburdening of pent-up emotions or frustration and such relief is invaluable Also, it can allow an 3rd person, neutral perspective on issues which can be profound.

Many of my clients have had life-changing experiences from therapy, counselling and coaching. However, when it came to intimacy and sexuality, they felt something was missing.

Discussing specific topics - such as improving communication with partners, having massive extended orgasms and experiencing female ejaculation - can only lead so far.  Krishna Das, a mantra meditation leader, says: "You can't think yourself out of a problem" - nor can you think yourself to orgasm!

Hands-on practical experience is important, as once you've experienced an orgasmic state you’re more likely to experience them again. Once you know how you like to receive pleasure, you communicate that to others, so you can have similar pleasurable experiences in the future.

Your nervous system doesn't understand words alone, rather it's regulated by differing forms of stimulation such as sight, sounds, taste, touch, and smell. All these senses can lead you to feel far more pleasure than any discussion or simply understanding sexuality can. Tantra bodywork processes energy, information and speech rather than just talk therapies which only engage in conversation.

Tantra bodywork is a radical method that changes how your body understands pleasure. Your body provides messages and has its own intuition; however, many people don't know how to listen to these messages. By you gaining a better understanding of these messages you can reach such heights again and show others how to be a catalyst in your reaching such states.

Pleasurable touch facilitates a realignment of your body as Neuro-chemicals including serotonin, dopamine, oxtoxycin and phenylethamine start surging in your brain. Increasing Neuro-chemicals allows a re-wiring of the brain to occur which facilitates the body's internal messaging system to function correctly.

I witness how the body-based sessions that I give my clients are a catalyst in them being empowered, energized and in tune with their sexuality. They feel far more pleasure in all aspects of their lives, not just sexual. Once these neuro-pathways are open energy and electricity can then continue to flow into these regions, leading to pleasure and fulfilment. 

Furthermore, many people today are starved of touch. Touch can have lasting impacts on us. We can all remember moments where a hug or a caress changed our mood, especially when the intention has been comforting and loving. Touch is a massive impact in people behaving differently.

Touch deprivation affects our sleep, energy and how loving and kind we are to ourselves as well as to others. It also shows how we are missing out on the more joyous and pleasurable aspects of life. Just having touch as a nutrient in our lives has a massive positive impact.

According to Lynne Forrest, author of "Guiding principles for life beyond victim consciousness".

"The body is the historian of the mind. We keep a cellular record stored in the body of everything we have ever experienced. 

We “wear” our history; the body knows and remembers our traumas, our highs and especially our lows, that get replayed over and over again through our aches and painful postures. Even our diseases and maladies come out of our history of pain.

There is a Wisdom in the body that knows how to “unwind” these life traumas and restore us to a state of greater health and clarity. Turn to it for guidance in and through the painful archives of your past."

Furthermore, childhood traumas and upsets that you may have experienced whilst you were too young to vocalise can still be stuck in the body. Accessing such traumas via talk therapies is difficult as the person doesn't even remember what occurred.

However, a somatic-based touch therapy can unwind these life traumas especially when we don't remember or understand how such traumas occurred.  

Touch therapies, including tantra bodywork, allow us to tune into the guidance of the body. Tantra massage facilitates the intuition of the body and improves how we communicate with ourselves. Having tantra bodywork is a great act of self-love. It can release the traumas your body holds onto thereby reducing the amount of pain you feel while increasing the amount of pleasure.

My clients find that the body responds and then the mind follows, not vice versa, which is why many of them point to the fact that tantra massage has led to lasting positive experiences far quicker than the time spent in therapy/coaching.

The benefits they list include:

·       Increase in energy and libido

-        Hugely relaxing and restful, the mind becomes very quiet

·       Better relationships with intimate partners due to a resulting improvement in how they communicate what type of touch they desire

·       The establishment of better boundaries and the ability to communicate boundaries in their relationships

·       A greater ability to receive one-way touch so they don't have to give back - as a result, they feel no pressure to perform

·       Deeper appreciation and love for themselves

·       A sense of their thoughts, feelings, emotions and behaviour now feeling in unison

·       Being conscious and increasing their ability to respond, rather than being reactive

·       Better sex and orgasms

I also do sessions with couples, to show one partner how they can provide such amazing experiences to their beloveds. They find such sessions deeply enriching as they take the skills that I demonstrate and improve their relationships. Adding these skills as a lover will transform your relationship and sex life.

Talking is important and communicating what you both want and desire is critical. However, knowing how to give and receive pleasure will mean that you spend less time talking and more time doing what you both loves.

SANJAY JOSHI 7th APRIL 2019